4 Types of First Looks on Your Wedding Day (And Why Each One Matters)

4 Types of First Looks on Your Wedding Day (And Why Each One Matters)

It's hard to choose our favorite moments throughout the wedding day, but if we had to pick, they might be the excitement of being seen for the first time. Whether this beautiful moment comes from your partner first look, your first look with parents, or when you walk out to your bridesmaids—a first look moment is sure to steal your heart away.

More and more these days, couples are choosing to take a few minutes during different phases of the day to enjoy moments of surprise and emotion with their best friends and loved ones. From looks of joy and laughter to the happiest of tears—from those who have always stood by your side to those who will stand by you forever after—these first look moments say it all.

Below are four first look opportunities that will sweep you off your feet and create unforgettable photo opportunities.

1. First Look With Your Bridesmaids

We admit, each kind of first look is special in its own way and we love each for different reasons. The bridesmaids first look is sweet and sentimental among best friends.

What Makes This Special

The moment unfolds: After you're fully dressed and ready, you step out to reveal yourself to your bridesmaids for the first time. Their reactions are immediate, genuine, and deeply personal.

What we capture:

  • Each bridesmaid's unique reaction (some cry, some scream, some go silent with emotion)

  • The collective moment when they all see you together

  • Individual hugs and embraces

  • Candid laughter and tears

  • The bond between you and each friend

Why This Matters

We love that each reaction is different and admirable while capturing a unique bond between the bride and each bridesmaid. Friendships are forever, and we love that photo opportunities like this celebrate them!

When to schedule this:

  • Right after you finish getting dressed

  • Before any other first looks

  • 15-20 minutes is usually plenty

  • Works in your getting ready suite or a nearby beautiful location

The Emotional Value

These photos capture: The women who have been with you through everything—roommates, late-night conversations, relationship ups and downs, life milestones—seeing you about to marry the person you love. It's a celebration of friendship as much as it's a celebration of your wedding day.

Years from now, these images will remind you of the friends who stood by you during one of life's biggest moments.

For guidance on what to wear during getting ready and how to coordinate with your bridesmaids, our preparation guide offers helpful tips that apply to wedding mornings as well.

 
 

2. First Look With Your Partner

Tried and true, it's the most common first look and the most romantic (obviously!). The reaction of your partner makes all the anticipation worth it and will be remembered forever, thanks to your photography and videography team.

Why This Is So Powerful

The private emotional release: It's truly one of the most genuine moments captured during the day. Your partner gets to react authentically—tears, laughter, overwhelming emotion—without the pressure of an audience watching.

What happens during this moment:

  • You position back-to-back or with one partner's eyes closed

  • The reveal happens naturally

  • Genuine reactions unfold (often tears from both)

  • Private words are exchanged that only you two hear

  • You have 5-10 minutes alone together before portraits begin

Capturing Multiple Perspectives

Even better when captured from multiple angles by our team members. Having a second photographer ensures one captures your reaction while the other focuses on your partner's—preserving both perspectives of this irreplaceable moment.

What dual coverage captures:

  • Your partner's face when they first see you

  • Your expression and emotion

  • The approach and reveal from different angles

  • The embrace and private moments afterward

  • Wide shots showing the beautiful location and context

Why Video Matters Here

This 60-second moment contains words you'll forget, emotions you'll miss while living them, and authentic reactions that deserve more than still photos. Read our complete guide on why video is a must if you're doing a first look to understand why this moment deserves both photography and videography.

The Timeline Benefits

Beyond the emotional value, partner first looks provide:

  • More relaxed portrait sessions (60-90 minutes pre-ceremony)

  • 30-40% more couple portraits in your gallery

  • Ability to utilize golden hour light for yourselves

  • You can participate in cocktail hour instead of being stuck doing portraits

  • Reduced pre-ceremony nerves

For a complete breakdown of all the benefits, read our detailed guide on whether you should do a first look.

 
 

3. First Look With Your Parents or Grandparents

bride shares emotional first look with her father on wedding day

Giving away a son or daughter on their wedding day is an emotional thing for parents. So naturally, the reaction of seeing their child dressed and ready for their wedding day—ready to walk down the aisle—is incredibly touching and sentimental.

Why This Moment Is So Meaningful

For your parents: This is the moment they truly process that their child is getting married. You're no longer just "planning a wedding"—you're standing in front of them, fully dressed, about to marry the person you love.

Common reactions we see:

  • Tears (from both parents and you)

  • Quiet pride and emotion

  • Tender embraces

  • Meaningful words exchanged privately

  • Sometimes laughter through tears

How to Structure This

Timing options:

Option 1: Before getting fully dressed

  • Your mom sees you in your dress before anyone else

  • Very intimate, emotional mother-daughter or mother-son moment

  • Usually in your getting ready suite

Option 2: After you're ready

  • Both parents see you together

  • Happens after bridesmaids first look (if you're doing one)

  • Can include grandparents as well

  • Usually allows for more composed photos

Option 3: Right before ceremony

  • Quick private moment before processional

  • Very emotional as reality sets in

  • Limited time but powerful impact

Photos You'll Treasure Forever

You'll cherish these photos for years to come, we promise. They also make incredible framed gifts for your parents—consider ordering prints to give them as thank-you gifts.

What these images capture:

  • Your parents' pride and emotion

  • The generational connection

  • A milestone in your family's story

  • The people who raised you seeing you become a spouse

  • Grandparents (if included) witnessing family legacy continue

Understanding how to pose naturally during emotional moments helps everyone feel comfortable, allowing authentic emotion to unfold without awkward stiffness.

 
 

 4. The Traditional First Look: Walking Down the Aisle

Even if you see each other before the ceremony, there is a completely different set of emotions you'll experience as you walk down the aisle and see your partner at the altar.

Why This Remains Powerful

The ceremony entrance is unique because:

  • All the anticipation and planning comes down to this moment

  • A swell of emotions takes over you

  • Your guests' energy and reactions surround you

  • The formality and significance of the setting

  • You're making a public commitment in front of everyone you love

  • The weight of what's about to happen feels real

You Don't Lose This Moment

Common concern: "If we do a partner first look, won't the aisle walk be less special?"

The reality: Doing a first look with your partner won't take anything away from this moment. We promise!

Why both moments are distinct:

Partner first look = Private, intimate, emotional release

  • Just the two of you

  • Freedom to react without an audience

  • Casual, authentic interaction

  • Nervousness melts away

Ceremony entrance = Public, formal, ceremonial significance

  • All your loved ones watching

  • Processional music and formality

  • The gravity of commitment

  • Different kind of tears and emotion

Actually, it gives you more moments and more experiences on the wedding day, all different and unique in their own way.

Capturing the Processional

What we document during your entrance:

  • Your partner's reaction seeing you walk toward them

  • Your face and emotion walking down the aisle

  • Guests' reactions (tears, smiles, joy)

  • Parents' faces watching

  • The full scene with everyone gathered

  • The moment you reach the altar

Not to mention all the guests swooning as they stare and watch you walk down the aisle—this collective energy creates an atmosphere that simply doesn't exist during a private first look.

Having a second photographer ensures comprehensive coverage: one positioned at the altar capturing your partner's reaction, the other at the back documenting your full entrance and guest reactions.

Planning Multiple First Looks: Timeline Considerations

If you want to include several first look moments, timing is key.

Recommended Schedule

2:00pm - Get dressed Hair and makeup complete, dress on, ready to go

2:15pm - Bridesmaids first look 15-20 minutes with your bridesmaids

2:30pm - Parents/grandparents first look 10-15 minutes with parents (can be separate or together)

2:45pm - Partner first look The main event, including 5-10 minutes of private time

3:00pm - Couple and bridal party portraits 60-90 minutes of relaxed portrait sessions

4:30pm - Ceremony begins Everyone is relaxed, portraits are complete

5:00pm - Cocktail hour You participate! Quick family formals during this time

6:00pm - Reception Brief sunset portraits if desired

What This Timeline Achieves

Benefits of stacking first looks:

  • All major emotional moments captured before ceremony

  • You're relaxed and present during ceremony

  • Portraits are completed without rush

  • You enjoy cocktail hour with guests

  • Multiple meaningful photo opportunities throughout the day

Understanding the best time for wedding photos helps you plan when to schedule each first look for optimal lighting and emotional impact.

Which First Looks Should You Include?

Not every couple needs all four types. Here's how to decide:

Definitely Consider

Partner first look - if you:

  • Want relaxed portrait timeline

  • Feel nervous about ceremony

  • Want private time together

  • Desire more variety in couple portraits

  • Want to participate in cocktail hour

Parents first look - if you:

  • Have a close relationship with parents

  • Want to give them a special private moment

  • Know they'll be emotional (they deserve privacy)

  • Want meaningful photos to frame for them

Nice to Have

Bridesmaids first look - if you:

  • Have a close-knit group of friends

  • Want to celebrate your friendships

  • Have time in your getting ready schedule

  • Want fun, joyful photos with your girls

Traditional aisle first look - this happens regardless: Even if you do partner first look, the ceremony entrance remains powerful and emotionally distinct. You don't have to choose one or the other—you can have both.

How We Capture These Moments

Our Approach to First Looks

We believe first looks should be:

  • Authentic, not staged

  • Private (only essential people present)

  • Well-timed (not rushed)

  • Beautifully documented from multiple angles

What we do:

  • Position you naturally in beautiful light

  • Step back and let moments unfold organically

  • Capture genuine reactions without interfering

  • Use documentary photography techniques to preserve authenticity

  • Provide gentle guidance without directing emotion

Why Professional Coverage Matters

First looks are unrepeatable moments:

  • You can't redo your partner's genuine reaction

  • Parent emotions happen once

  • Bridesmaids' surprise is authentic only the first time

This is why comprehensive wedding photography coverage matters—these moments deserve to be preserved by experienced professionals who know how to capture emotion without disrupting it.

Common Questions About Multiple First Looks

Does doing multiple first looks cheapen the experience?

No. Each first look serves a different emotional purpose:

  • Bridesmaids = Celebrating friendship

  • Parents = Honoring family and legacy

  • Partner = Private intimate connection

  • Aisle = Public commitment and ceremony

They're all meaningful in distinct ways.

How much time should I allocate?

Recommended timing:

  • Bridesmaids: 15-20 minutes

  • Parents: 10-15 minutes

  • Partner: 30-40 minutes (including portraits after)

  • Total: Plan 90 minutes for all first looks plus initial portraits

Will I be emotionally exhausted before the ceremony?

Actually, the opposite. Most couples report feeling:

  • More relaxed after seeing their partner

  • Calmer knowing major moments are captured

  • Excited rather than nervous

  • Present during ceremony instead of anxious

Do we need video for all first looks?

Priority for video:

  1. Partner first look (highest priority—words exchanged, genuine reactions)

  2. Parents first look (emotional, meaningful words)

  3. Aisle entrance (always captured)

  4. Bridesmaids (fun but less critical for video)

Read our guide on why video matters for first looks to understand what you're missing with photos alone.

Making Your Decision

Have you decided whether or not you'll include first looks in your wedding day? If you're set on not seeing your partner before the ceremony, consider one of the other options above. Each makes for an incredible photo opportunity and meaningful moment.

Questions to Help You Decide

  1. How important is timeline flexibility for portraits?

  2. Do we want private emotional moments before the ceremony?

  3. Will our parents be very emotional? (They might want privacy)

  4. Do we have a close bridal party we want to celebrate?

  5. How nervous do we typically feel at big events?

  6. What moments matter most to us personally?

Our Recommendation

After photographing 300+ weddings, we've seen that couples who include at least one first look (usually partner or parents) report:

  • Less stress during the day

  • More meaningful private moments

  • Better variety in their photo gallery

  • Calmer, more present ceremony experience

  • No regrets about "ruining" the aisle moment

But ultimately, your wedding should reflect what feels right for you.

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